Everyone cheats in numerous ways that, thus jumping to conclusions if you see any of those signs could be a mistake. However, if you’ve got noticed quite of those red flags, then you should confront your partner.
I would like to suggest you that if you’re not sure then it is better to first sit and talk it out. Sometimes it is the misinterpretation that may lead to think that your partner is cheating on you.
But keeping these signs in mind may help you understand better than your partner is cheating or not.
1. Discuss with a friend.
Find out people to support and guide you in this phase of your life is really important. It is good to have friends who are mature and provide you with the best advice.
Go and talk out loud to your friends, especially when you think that your partner is cheating on you. They can help you confront your negative thinking and help you think straight. They will help you reduce the risk of getting absorbed by thinking about the situation regularly and continuously.
Have you ever tried telling about a situation to a stranger and felt better? If not, then do try. This way you get a better outlook over a situation. Also, strangers are the best to detect something like this just by knowing the behaviour pattern.
2. Mull it over while doing something else.
Sometimes when a maths problem is not getting solved and you leave it. But when you try it again after a while, either going somewhere out or taking a nap, you are easily able to get through that problem.
Similarly, when you are consciously trying to judge the character of a person, chances are high you might fail at it. But when you give yourself some time to think about their actions subconsciously, it becomes simple. You will be better able to judge the truth from deception.
Researchers have proven this by experimenting with a panel of student judges watch people give testimony and decide if they had been lying. The students who were given more time to think were better able to predict who is lying than those who were given less time.
3. Listen to the words they use very carefully.
Language patterns used by the person who is cheating, over time start changing. It is helpful in predicting that a person if a person is avoiding the truth.
A Southern Methodist University study found that liars often used fewer first-person words (l, me, my), cognitive words (realise, think), and exclusive words (but, except). They tended to use more negative emotion words (hate anger, enemy) and motion verbs (walk, move). Therefore, notice very carefully what and how the person is speaking and it will tell you a lot.
4. Listen to the sound of their voice.
It is not just what you say, the way you say, the sound of it matters a lot. Voices are able to predict certain characteristics of your personality.
Men with higher testosterone tend to own deeper voices, and women with higher estrogen tend to own higher-pitched speech. And it seems, higher levels of testosterone in men are coupled with higher rates of cheating. About the women, it is not yet clear. Your trustworthiness to your marriage’s stability to whether you are just friends. All of this can be predicted with the sound of your voice.
5. Pay attention to social media use.
One of the biggest factor to be taken into account in this century is their engrossment to social media.
If your partner has suddenly started giving more time to the social media or you are blocked from their profiles, this should be the concern for you.
Recent research suggests that people who are highly active on Facebook and Twitter may be more likely to have social-media-related conflict. Subsequently more likely to experience infidelity, breakup, divorce.
It’s unlikely that too much tweeting, posting, and liking caused other people to cheat, but the study showed that there is a connection between the two.
6. Watch for sudden changes in behaviour.
When you say, nobody knows him/her better than I shows that you understand their behaviour better. You are capable to foretell what will be the next move in a particular situation. Thus, whenever there takes place some unexpected or abrupt changes in their body language, from facial expressions to pattern of speech – you can simply notice it. Your body experiences these kinds of alteration when you’re nervous and feeling tense when you lie. Constantly look out for such signs if you think someone is cheating on you.
7. Lookout for silence, personal attacks, or repeating questions.
When someone is at fault or lying for that matter have the tendency of repeating questions when they are asked something. They feel like their secret has been caught and they are exposed. Another such type of signs can be, the inability to speak for a while or change in a breathing pattern. Variation in heart rate or blood flow also shows a lot.
It may also begin to be increasingly critical of you or blames you for cheating, even when you haven’t. This is a way of putting you on the defensive and making them feel better about what they are doing.
FEW MORE SIGNS TO LOOK FOR:
- They suddenly begin to encourage you to spend time with others. Their excuse for this is If you spend time with other people, then they can too.
- They don’t answer a few phone calls when you’re nearby. They look very panicked when the phone rings.
- They seem disinterested and distracted during sex.
- You begin to observe an emotional distance between the two of you.
- They are more attentive to your needs than usual.
- Their taste in music suddenly changes along with their mood.
- They may show no interest in the relationship future.
It’s equally important to be aware that you can’t every time trust your “gut feeling.” Sometimes it’s just jealousy and insecurity crawling in. It is up to you to make the right choice. Always remember that your choices define you.